I love this guy with all my heart but i can never be with him in the long run even though we’ve been dating for 3 years because his religion is keeping us apart. apparently im not important enough for him to fight for me. instead he says, well if we cant be together i hope u find someone u can get along with. wtf is that shit ? this is the guy i’ve been dating for three years and gave my all to. im the stupid one for fucking giving a dam. FML!
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Ah, I can definitely comment on this. I had something of the same problem with an ex of mine. He is very serious about his religion, and though I do have my beliefs in the same god, I am not a congregational participant. See, my fit is with the church, not God. I just think that religion has really been too tarnished and changed and diversified for it to show the true light of God, and so I can’t find a church to go to. I also love sex and want to have it… or at least feel like my partner wants it. But he was abstaining until marriage and, even though we did have sex when it got too hard for him to keep it in his pants, it was a huge deal for him and he’d feel really bad afterwards. Truth is, you can’t get in the way of a god or a religion… or any other belief, for that matter. If he were, say, a vegetarian and you loved meat, you couldn’t just tell him: well, you have to stop being a vegetarian because you’re with me now, and if you love me like you say you do you will start eating meat. The same, he can’t tell you to stop eating meat if you love it so much. So, yes, religion, or any belief in anything, can set people apart. There’s no fighting over it, no going around it. Think of this time as an experience where you have learned that love does not give us licence to change a person, not in part nor in whole, and that no one will ever change unless they want to. It has nothing to do with you, so don’t worry. Someone who truly is compatible with you, who enjoys the same beliefs that you do, if you have any, will come along and you will find yourself in a better place then. Best of luck!
My husband of 5 years doesnt believe in God. The first year in our relationship he told me and i wanted to break up, because its hard for me to cope with that. Well, he was sad and we didnt break up, i thought, well he is his own person. We got married with a minister and he did the whole ceremony. Now, 5 years later he says he still has trouble believing the whole God existance is hard to swallow. I hate that he thinks that way and i try to be understanding, no fighting over it, we talk, but i wouldnt leave him for that, i love him. Thinkk about that, you want someone to be with you for love, youre better off.
Religon is ruining lives and society as a whole, I can’t believe he chose religion over you. This isn’t right.