Ok, So I really like this girl. I will call her C just so that I have something to call her with out saying her name. Well anyways, like I said I really like her. But I do not know howshe feels about me. I mean, we use to hang out all the time and we get along great for the most part. I mean I have had tons of people tell me that she likes me and I get that feeling to most of the time. Or I use to. But she has done some things that has made me upset. But I got over them, I mean we are not dating so I have no right to get upset right. Or that is how I feel. Well, now her thing is we make plans and then she ditches me. She does it all the time unless she needs something, like smokes or gas or wants food. Then she will hang out with me. I was kind of seeing the fact that she was using me thru “rose colored glasses”. But no the glasses are sliding off my nose and I don’t know if I want to push them back up or not. I mean I really like her. A lot. More then I have for anyone. And it is hard for me to tell her no sometimes. But the fact that she keeps making plans with me and then ditching me is starting to really piss me off. And the really shitty thing that is making me kind of re-think how good of a friend she is, she does not let me know that she has changed the plans untill it is kind of to late to make others. Like last night, we were suppose to go out to dinner together. Her idea, but I was baby-sitting my 7 month old neice for my brother while he was at work, and I told her that I would txt her when he got home. Well I did, it was at 6:30, and she did not reply back, then I called her ten minutes later cause I wanted to know if I had to go find something else to eat for dinner or if we were still going out. Well she did not get ahold of me till like 12:30 at night and told me that she was hanging out with one of her guy friends, the went to another town over and just drove around, went to a movie and went shopping. OK whatever, but next time let me know that you are ditching me. And that is not the first time. That is like the 10th time in a 1 1/2 week time frame. and it is starting to piss me off. But I am afraid to bring this up to her cause I am afraid to lose her as a friend. Cause when we do hang out we have so much fun and get alongso well. And I get the feeling that soon we will be together. But then she does this shit and it makes me not want to be friends with her. I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to lose her as a friend, but I want things to change. And see, I think that the reason she is doing this to me, ditching me that is, there is no reason for her not to call or txt me even if she is hanging with someone else cause she has no problem doing it when we are hanging out, but I think that she really likes me and is afraid to admit it and/or act on it. Cause she just broke up with her boyfriend like a month and a half ago and it is still a little sore for her cause he broke up with her for no reason. And I thin kthat she also just wants to have fun and does not want to start something wit hanyone right now and just wants to have fun. But that still does not give her a reason to keep fucking me over all the damn time. Shit.
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i think you are out of your mind.
you do realize that she is wiping the floor with you, right? she is NOT interested in you, wake up! I am a girl, so I know how a girl reacts in a situation like that. she uses you for everything if she has nothing else better to do. she uses you as a backup in case she doesn’t meet with other people more interesting than you.
if you like getting hurt by staying next to her, or whatever, dreaming about her, so eb it. it’s your mind she fucks up.
either you wake up and find a girl that really is suitable for you, is kind, lovable and funny, or you chase her until she breaks your heart saying you face to face these things I said to you above. if you continue insisting, she might report you as a stalker. if she is begging you not to leave her friendship (but this is NOT called a friendship, believe me!!) be prepared that she will mock you again and use you like an object whenever she wants.
good luck with that!